Life is a journey.

The only impossible journey is the one you never begin. Anthony Robbins

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Take the limits off!

Have you ever talked yourself out of doing something? Do you sometimes find yourself having a conversation telling yourself all the reasons WHY you can’t do a particular thing?
You reflect over your life, and you haven’t done some things you KNOW you can do because YOU got in the way. Mike & The Mechanics sang, Looking back my shoulder. I can see that look in your eye.
I never dreamed it could be over. I never wanted to say goodbye.


Today is the day you goodbye to the old YOU. You’re saying goodbye to every limitation because these are holding you back. It can be like a poison; it is stopping you from achieving the happiness you want in your life. YOU need to get out of your own way. Chase those dreams and achieve those goals.
Laird Hamilton said, if you get out of your own way. It’s amazing what will come to you.

Say to yourself TODAY I’m getting out of my OWN way. I can do this.

Here are a few things that you can do to get out of your own way and get things done.

Remember why you are doing it or why you want to do it

Knowing why you are doing something is critical to getting it done. What are you going to get from doing this thing? When you don’t feel like doing it, focus on the outcome you’re looking for. Think about how that outcome will make your life better, no matter how big or small the improvement is.

Focus on the important things
Nothing will drain your energy faster than working on or putting off tedious things that won’t move you toward your goal. Focus on the task in hand. Do not compare yourself to others as this can be dangerous. It can stop you in your tracks STOP. Stop that negative self-talk- You will only get so far if you keep talking yourself out.

Find someone to help. Offer support or advice to someone you can help. You’ll feel happy that you have contributed to someone else’s life. And do it because you want to, not for self-gratification

Do not focus on what you CAN NOT control.

An Italian author Dante once said, ‘the secret of getting things done is to act’.

Please leave a comment on which tip you will use today.

Plan it. See it anticipate.

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Going to the next level

Don’t settle for where you are. Go to next level. You’ve got to go deeper to get to where you want to go; if you want to reach your goals. Being in a place of mediocre isn’t you anymore. It doesn’t satisfy you. There is a hunger for you to change the game and not stay the same. You want to grow and experience new things. Be like Rocky Balboa, he struggled and worked hard. He had difficulties in his daily life that he struggles he had. From a ‘nobody’, he becomes a ‘somebody’. It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.

Going to the next level:

COMMITMENT

Are you willing to stay the course? Sticking at it despite the opposition. Start cooperating with yourself.  Make a commitment to your commitments. You will begin to see positive results.

I CAN attitude

Yes, it’s hard, but I CAN. Have that determined attitude of no matter what, I WILL do it. Grow through the challenges of life not groan through it. Purpose in your mind that you will do whatever is required to reach your goals.

FOCUS

Focus on what YOU need to do. Don’t get distracted by the noise. When you focus you begin to pay particular attention to what is that you want. Focus on the outcome not the obstacle.

FAILURE

Yes, we get knocked down at times. But the key is to keep getting up, as the saying goes winners never quit and quitters never win. Lessons are learned when we fail. There is no shame. The only shame is not giving things your best shot.

HARD WORK

You’ve joined the school of hard knocks. It’s painful, but it’s necessary. To reach your goals it requires hard work. Move from where you are. Commit, be determined, focus, prepare to fail AND get up. Are you daring enough to go to the next level? 

Let me know what you are doing to get to the next level. Please leave a comment

Plan it. See it. Anticipate it.
Thank you for stopping by- Tarnya Coley

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UPGRADE YOUR THINKING

As a man thinketh so is he…
New month, new mindset.

Wow, it’s August already, where has the time gone?
I hope you are all keeping safe.

Having a different perspective is key to your personal development. If you want to different results you will have to do thinks differently. Positive thinking will transform your life.
Here are a few tips on how to upgrade your thinking.

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1. Think on good things. Focus your mind on what you want to achieve. Fill your mind with confidence and security. Also write down your goals. By the end of 2020 what do you want to achieve?
2. Have a list of affirmations. Ten times each day repeat your I am and I can affirmations.
3. Identify your areas of negativity. Take a good look at the different areas of your life and identify the ones in which you tend to be the most negative. Tackle one area at a time.
4. Note to self: Start each day on a positive note. Have an attitude of gratitude.
5. Keep believing in yourself. Have faith in your abilities and release your inner powers.

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Have the right application of thought and let go of the old thinking and embrace your new mindset.

Hope you found these tips useful. Which tip will you use to upgrade your thinking?

“Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.” — Earl Nightingale

Plan it. See it. Anticipate it.
Let me know what you thought of those tips. What tip do you have to upgrade your thinking? Leave a comment
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What are you planting?

What are you planting?

Purpose & peace?

Love?

Appreciation?

Newness?

Truth?…

What are you planting with? Who are your companions?

Good companions to grow alongside are people that will offer time and advice. Support you with decision making. Also, just simply being there. Make sure you do your part and help others when they are in need. Putting in a little time and effort will pay off in the long run.

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Are you the caretaker? Who are you taking care of?

-Other people

-Family/ friends

-Children

Are you also taking care of YOU?

 

How are you taking care of what you have planted and your companions?

-Quality time with loved ones

-Being a listening ear

-Being there when they need it

-Laughing together

Problem

Are you the are gardener? Or have you let others plant for you? As they don’t understand your vision and purpose, the garden has now over-grown and has become messy. There is chaos and disorder. The ground may eventually become hard.

What you originally planted is not bearing fruit. You have now become dull and ineffective. However, dead things can be resurrected.

Take Action

-Do not let others trespass onto your garden

-You are entitled to prune or remove anything that encroaches onto your side of the boundary.

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Tips for seed sowing success

-Moisture the surface of the compost

-Make sure the seeds that you are planting is dug down deep enough as this will help them stay in one place

-Sprinkle the seeds evenly as this will create balance

-Water the seed, this is a vital element. Too much water and your seeds will drown or rot. Too little and they will either fail to germinate or die once they do.

-Ensure the environment in which you plant is tenderly cared for. It would be no good if the environment is toxic and it becomes a dumping ground. This is highly dangerous. This comes with a warning sign. Having a toxic environment is capable of causing death or serious debilitation.

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Give your seed the right amount of heat, light and moisture, and they will germinate successfully.

What you plant now will harvest later… if you don’t give up.

What are you planting? Feel free to leave a comment. I look forward to reading what you are planting.

Thank you for stopping by

Tarnya- Personal development coach

 

RENEWED MINDSET & MOTIVATION

During Lockdown I have had plenty of time to reflect, refocus and reset.  Let us press the reset button and reprogram our mindsets.

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Research conducted April 2020 suggested,

Poor sleep and increased risk of exhaustion are also on the rise with the majority of the 500 respondents (64%) reporting a lack of sleep due to worries with a similar increase in symptoms of fatigue. Some 48% also admitted to working long and irregular hours.

Mental health was also found to be suffering, with half saying they were unhappy with their current work-life balance. A third admitted to frequently feeling isolated, while a fifth are worried about job security.

Our mindset matters, we need to feed our minds with the correct fuel.

A positive mindset means that you have a positive expectation that things will turn out well and that you will succeed. It gives you more courage to try and persist to make changes than if you have a negative mindset. Making positive changes in the way we think is necessary for our health and well-being. It also makes us more productive and focused.

Benefits of a positive mindset

  • Increased life span.
  • Lower rates of depression.
  • Lower levels of distress.
  • Greater resistance to the common cold.
  • Better psychological and physical well-being.

What we feed our minds, that becomes our mindset

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I have created a master mind training. Join me as we go on a journey to creating a game changing mindset plan in just 30 days.

30 day to your strongest mindset challenge

30 days to your strongest mindset (3)

When: 1st June

Where: Live in the Strongest mindset Private FB group

Your going to learn…

✔ How to create your strongest mindset plan in 30 days

✔How to stay on course to achieve your goal in 30 days.

✔ How to develop healthy mindset habits

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Tarnya Coley- Personal Development Coach

SMILE

In these uncertain times we may find ourselves wondering what is going on.
Schools are shut.

Working from home.

More free time.

Restrictions on going out.

You made plans, but now they have been put on hold.

Not sure what to make of it all.

How do you remain positive when there seems to be chaos all around?
Here are a few things that I have been doing to stay focused, I SMILE.

S– Start a gratitude journal or continue writing in your journal.
Write down each day, two things you are grateful for. This will shift your focus and allows you to see that there is always something to be grateful for. You can do this exercise with your children. Members of your family. Call a friend and share your gratitude.

M– Mediate on positive affirmations.

Recite a positive quote in the morning. Think about what it means to you at this time. Share your quote with someone. This is a great exercise because it can transform the way you think and view things

I– Inject some fun into your day.

Dance to some music like no one is watching. Reconnect with old friends. Sing in the shower. Combat boredom and add some fun into your day.

L– Lend a helping hand.

Think about who you can reach out to. This will help you to focus your mind on other things. There are people that need your support. Be that person that extends a lending hand.
I am offering FREE one-hour coaching sessions for individuals who need to refocus and take action. Schedule your call with me today.

E– Enjoy the down time.

We may never get this time again. What is that thing, or in my case the things that you have not got around to do? Don’t overexert yourself. Take one day at a time.

Here are a list of some of the things that I am doing:

  • Decluttering the house, one space at a time.
  • Enrolled onto some free courses.
  • Working on new offers for my business
  • Spending more quality time with family

Reconnect with the things that you have been too busy for.

Remain positive and don’t forget to SMILE.

Share this with someone who you feel may benefit from hearing these tips.

What strategies are you using to remain positive in these uncertain times?
Thank you for stopping by
Tarnya Coley
Personal development coach
Best selling author of Open Doors
Motivational speaker

IN THREE SIMPLE STEPS

How committed are you to see your vision come to pass?

Are you willing to work hard and push through even when you don’t see the results?
Be committed to your goals. Commitment shows strength of character. Quitting is easy but following through until you see it come to pass can be difficult.  
Even when it gets difficult, keep on going. You may feel that it is taking too long, and you want to see immediate results. Remember that there is a time for everything. Do not rush the process but persevere because you will see the results.
Here are three keys to help you master your commitment and not give up.
1. Dedication
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How dedicated are you?
You start well, until a challenge crosses your path. Then you question should I be doing this? Just because a challenge comes your way, it doesn’t mean that you throw in the towel. Think about how you will navigate the distraction. When you are dedicated you will set yourself a routine. Think about why you doing it, who will it benefit? Your why will keep you moving forward.
2. Determination

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Set your face like stone and be determined to carry out the task until completion

Be unwavering. Do not stoop to complaining, criticising or whining. Remember your words have power. Focus your energy on what you are doing and not what others are doing. Keep revisiting your goals and do not let anything stop you from pursuing your goals.

 

3. Drive
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Drive is a contributor to high performance. There needs to be a balance when you are driven to do something. Sometimes that drive can lead to burnout. Ensure you have balance. Being driven compels you to have a clear passion for what you are doing
Be calm, steady, and stay committed.
“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.” – Ken Blanchard
Are you committed or just interested?
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QUICK TIPS

Let me share how to invest in your yourself personal development.

Whatever you’re feeding yourself on, that is what you become.

You are the biggest investment, and you are worth it. Developing yourself is a priority. I encourage you to make small changes each day. Remember, every day is a school day. If you stop learning,  you’ll stop growing.

Why investing in personal development is important.
1. You will grow
2. You will change
3. You will be more productive
4. You will manage yourself more effectively

According to landmark report, people are on average online for 24 hours a week, twice as long as 10 years ago, with one in five of all adults spending as much as 40 hours a week on the web.
How much time do you spend on your phone? Watching mind numbing TV?  Unproductive tasks? You can not get time back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

Is it time to change your habits?

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Continually developing yourself is key. Over the years I have been making small changes as I found myself not being very effective and felt unfulfilled. Change starts with yourself. I decided to make small changes to my daily routine. I started to see the positive impact that it was making. If you make one small change each day, imagine how many things you would have changed by December 31st. Why not start today?

1.Read. Read. Read
What are you reading?
Read for 20 minutes a day. Or listen to an audio book.
On the way to work, listen to motivational messages/ podcast. If you are taking the bus you could read a book/ listen to a book. A study in the UK researched that in England average commuting time per day has risen from 48 minutes to an hour, and one in seven commuters are now spending two hours or more each day travelling to and from work.
That is a lot of time travelling. Use your time effectively.

2. Listen to positive motivational podcasts/ messages
What are you listening to?
It develops positive thinking. These positive messages will inspire you. It can make an impact on you when listening to positive messages.

3. Surround yourself with like-minded people
Who are you spending time with? Iron sharpens iron.
Spend time with people that will elevate, inspire and motivate you.

Tell me who your best friends are and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar. John Mason

4. Focus on your priorities and goals
How do you spend your time?
Wake up 30 minutes or one hour earlier.
Focus on what is important and you will achieve what you set out to do.
Distraction comes in many forms. Make it a habit to change your routine.

What small changes will you make to develop the person within?
If you have started to make small changes, fantastic. Please leave a comment in the comments box below. It may change someone’s life.

Thank you for stopping by.
Tarnya Coley- Best selling author of Open Doors
www.ibelieveican.co.uk

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ONLINE COURSE

QUICK TIPS

Let me share how to invest in your yourself personal development.

Whatever you’re feeding yourself on, that is what you become.

You are the biggest investment, and you are worth it. Developing yourself is a priority. I encourage you to make small changes each day. Remember, every day is a school day. If you stop learning,  you’ll stop growing.

Why investing in personal development is important.
1. You will grow
2. You will change
3. You will be more productive
4. You will manage yourself more effectively

According to landmark report, people are on average online for 24 hours a week, twice as long as 10 years ago, with one in five of all adults spending as much as 40 hours a week on the web.
How much time do you spend on your phone? Watching mind numbing TV?  Unproductive tasks? You can not get time back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

Is it time to change your habits?

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Continually developing yourself is key. Over the years I have been making small changes as I found myself not being very effective and felt unfulfilled. Change starts with yourself. I decided to make small changes to my daily routine. I started to see the positive impact that it was making. If you make one small change each day, imagine how many things you would have changed by December 31st. Why not start today?

#1.Read. Read. Read
What are you reading?
Read for 20 minutes a day. Or listen to an audio book.
On the way to work, listen to motivational messages/ podcast. If you are taking the bus you could read a book/ listen to a book. A study in the UK researched that in England average commuting time per day has risen from 48 minutes to an hour, and one in seven commuters are now spending two hours or more each day travelling to and from work.
That is a lot of time travelling. Use your time effectively.

#2. Listen to positive motivational podcasts/ messages
What are you listening to?
It develops positive thinking. These positive messages will inspire you. It can make an impact on you when listening to positive messages.

#3. Surround yourself with like-minded people
Who are you spending time with? Iron sharpens iron.
Spend time with people that will elevate, inspire and motivate you.

Tell me who your best friends are and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar. John Mason

#4. Focus on your priorities and goals
How do you spend your time?
Wake up 30 minutes or one hour earlier.
Focus on what is important and you will achieve what you set out to do.
Distraction comes in many forms. Make it a habit to change your routine.

What small changes will you make to develop the person within?
If you have started to make small changes, fantastic. Please leave a comment in the comments box below. It may change someone’s life.

Thank you for stopping by.
Tarnya Coley- Best selling author of Open Doors
www.ibelieveican.co.uk

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ONLINE COURSE

DARE TO DREAM BIG

‘Without vision there is a lack of focus.’
A Harvard Business study revealed amazing statistics relating to goal setting and success. The study went on to find that the 14% who have goals are 10 times more successful than those without goals. The 3% with written goals are 3 times more successful than the 14% with unwritten goals.
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Crystal clear vision.
1. Write your vision and goals down in your journal and make it clear. Research suggests that when you write down your goals you are 42% more likely to achieve your goals. Writing your goals down not only forces you to get clear on what, exactly, it is that you want to accomplish, but doing so plays a part in motivating you to complete the tasks necessary for your success.
2. Create a vision board.
Vision boards are a very powerful tool. It is a great way to manifest your dreams. It enables you to focus on your life, have clarity and have ideal outcomes. Once you have clarity, you select words and images and from magazines and pin them to your board. When you create a vision board it aligns your brain with what you want to attract.
3. Are your goals SMART?
  • Specific

    What do I want to achieve?

    Why do I want to achieve it?

  • Measurable

          How will I measure my goals?

          How will I know when I have reached my goals?

  • Achievable

    How will I achieve my goals?

    What steps do I need to take to achieve my goals?

 
  • Realistic

    Are your goals realistic?

    What resources do you need to achieve it?

    Review and revise your goals if necessary.

  • Timely

    Do you have a time as to when you will achieve your goals?

    When will you achieve your goals?

4. Do you have a support network?
Who do you support with their goals?
Having a supportive network is a great way to be accountable. This allows you to keep you on track.
5. What steps do I need to take to fulfil my goals?
Writing your goals down isn’t enough. You have to put action to the vision.
It’s great to have a vision and have goals. In order for it to come to pass, you have to take action, act today.
The benefits of having goals:
1. Provides a sense of purpose and direction
2. Define your short- and long-term goals
3. Guides the decisions you make
4. It keeps you moving forward, even through the difficult times
‘Write the vision down and make it plain.’
Get 2020 vision and dare to dream big.
Thank you for stopping by
Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors