It is approaching the end of 2018 already.

At this time of year, I like to reflect.

Self-reflecting helps you to look at what you have carried out so far.

Thought provoking questioning goes round and round in my head.

These are some of the questions I have asked myself over the last few weeks.

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What have I accomplished?

What have I not accomplished?

How can I do things differently to produce different results?

What else do I want to work on?

How will I go about doing that?

How will I navigate the challenges?

Personal development helps you to make improvements in your life.

Creating an action plan is all part of the personal development process.

Remember personal development is a lifelong process.

Four benefits to personal development.

  1. You will be able to make crystal clear goals
  2. You will be motivated
  3. You will have a better work-life balance
  4. It will improve your prospects

What areas do you want to work on?

Do you have a personal development plan?

Why not work on it TODAY!

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors





It is time to live life on a new level.

Remember, we ALL have our own gifts and talents.

We ALL have a purpose to fulfill.

No more stepping in the shadows.

Do not let FEAR stop you from being the AWESOME person you were created to be.

Today is the day for YOU to step into your GREATNESS.

Here are FOUR tools to help you step into your greatness.

  3. Speak POSITIVE- It CHANGES atmospheres
  4. Be CONFIDENT- Be assured in your own WORTH

I dare you to step into your GREATNESS and live life on a new level.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors

Small steps, BIG results.

Have you ever felt that you are not making progress?

You put all your efforts into something and you say to yourself, ‘why did I even bother?’

No one even notices.

No one cares.

I have ONE tip for you…


Keep moving FORWARD.

Small steps every day.

Even when you do not feel like doing anything.

Find the inner strength to PUSH through.

Be that person who will NOT quit.

But be the type of person that will PERSEVERE.

I have been writing an online course which seems like forever.

I thought, why am I evening bothering.

There were so many things that were going against me.

I just couldn’t seem to get a breakthrough.

I had to keep telling myself ‘COME ON, YOU CAN DO IT’.

I  asked myself WHY  was I creating this course?

Who will this course BENEFIT?

Just by asking myself those two questions made me determined NOT to quit.

Knowing your WHY will keep you focused.

It will guide you step by step.

I started to make small progress every day.

This resulted in a BIG result.

I have now completed my Six Steps to Success online course. Feel free to check it out and spread the word.

My encouragement to you today is keeping making small steps every day. As it will end up with BIG results.

Thank you for stopping by.

Tarnya Coley- Bestselling author of Open Doors

Check out my story which has been featured in Purpose Driven Women Magazine.



3 Steps to boost Self-Discipline.

I think self-discipline is something, it’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.  – Daniel Goldstein

In assessing your level of self-discipline, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Am I setting myself goals for what I want to accomplish each day?
  • Do I take breaks throughout the day?
  • Have I taken steps to limit the distractions and temptations that hinder my progress?
  • Do I give myself a reasonable amount of time to complete tasks?
  • Am I effectively delegating work and decision-making where possible?
  • Am I mindful in my day-to-day work routine?

Always ask yourself the question why am I doing this? The WHY is so important because when you feel like giving up you go back to your WHY.

Improve yourself discipline.

  1. Take frequent breaks: Self-discipline is like a muscle. We can grow and improve our strength with practice, but we can also grow tired, and find our ability to remain in control exhausted.
  2. Remove temptations and distractions: Like many skills, self-discipline is best improved with frequent practice. It is a learned behavior, not an inherent ability, that we can train ourselves to engage in it more often. One of the best ways to set yourself up for success is to remove the things that you find distract you from your work.

The following steps can help you increase your self-control

  1. Make time to make decisions. Decision-making is one of those tasks that often fall exclusively on to leaders. 
  2. Reduce the load. While decision-making may often fall to leaders, delegation is an important tool in preventing yourself from becoming overloaded. 
  3. Positive thinking. This will help you to improve your focus by learning to concentrate on a fixed point, such as your breath while letting emotions or thoughts pass by without affecting you. 

Do you have any tips on how to boost self-discipline? Leave a comment.

A great Ted Talks Video: The battle between your present and future self.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day.

Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors

Six secrets to building UNSTOPPABLE Self-confidence.

Have you ever found yourself saying ‘I wish I was that confident?’

Have you ever looked at someone and thought wow they ooze so much confidence?

Building true confidence is a gradual process. This process does not happen overnight. Confidence is a state mind, it comes from feelings of well-being.

Here are six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE self-confidence. The secret is out, I had to share it.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Comparing yourself to others can be so damaging. Focus on yourself, your goals and strengths.

2. Be assertive.

Stand up for what you believe in and stick to your principles.

3. Take the limits off.

Stop doubting yourself, keep moving forward and take action.

4. Be positive

Have a different outlook, change your perspective.

5. Change your inner voice

Stop those negative voices. Think positive thoughts.

6. Smile

The act of smiling is strongly associated with positive feelings.

When you feel that your confidence is drifting remember these six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE confidence.

Have a great day.

Thank you for stopping by.

Tarnya Coley- Best Selling Author of Open Doors

Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach

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Topic for today: DISTRACTIONS.

Do you questions & need some advice or tips?

  • How to stay motivated?
  • How to have work life balance?
  • How to stay on top of your game?
  • How to stay disciplined?

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Tarnya Coley- Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach.

Author of Open Doors



The big LIE your mind keeps telling you.

                                                  YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

Sometimes I get caught up the big LIE my mind keeps telling me.

We can sometimes feel that we are not good enough and then start to compare ourselves to others.

You do NOT have to feel that way. Remember you are on your own journey.

As the saying goes, do not compare your chapter 1 with someone else’s chapter 20.

Do not listen to the negativity, reject those feelings and replace them with positive thoughts.

These 6 tips freed me from feeling that I wasn’t good enough. I hope they do the same for you too.

  1. You are enough
  2. You are unique
  3. Reject & replace
  4. You deserve love
  5. Your approval is the only one that matters
  6. You have a choice

Six tips to help you to remember you ARE good enough.

Share these 6 tips with someone today.

Thank you for stopping by.

Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.

Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach.