3 Steps to boost Self-Discipline.

I think self-discipline is something, it’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.  – Daniel Goldstein

In assessing your level of self-discipline, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Am I setting myself goals for what I want to accomplish each day?
  • Do I take breaks throughout the day?
  • Have I taken steps to limit the distractions and temptations that hinder my progress?
  • Do I give myself a reasonable amount of time to complete tasks?
  • Am I effectively delegating work and decision-making where possible?
  • Am I mindful in my day-to-day work routine?

Always ask yourself the question why am I doing this? The WHY is so important because when you feel like giving up you go back to your WHY.

Improve yourself discipline.

  1. Take frequent breaks: Self-discipline is like a muscle. We can grow and improve our strength with practice, but we can also grow tired, and find our ability to remain in control exhausted.
  2. Remove temptations and distractions: Like many skills, self-discipline is best improved with frequent practice. It is a learned behavior, not an inherent ability, that we can train ourselves to engage in it more often. One of the best ways to set yourself up for success is to remove the things that you find distract you from your work.

The following steps can help you increase your self-control

  1. Make time to make decisions. Decision-making is one of those tasks that often fall exclusively on to leaders. 
  2. Reduce the load. While decision-making may often fall to leaders, delegation is an important tool in preventing yourself from becoming overloaded. 
  3. Positive thinking. This will help you to improve your focus by learning to concentrate on a fixed point, such as your breath while letting emotions or thoughts pass by without affecting you. 

Do you have any tips on how to boost self-discipline? Leave a comment.

A great Ted Talks Video: The battle between your present and future self.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors



Next time you think life is putting obstacles in front of you… WATCH THIS!!!!!

The little girl in the video does NOT quit. Perseverance is the key. WOW, she did it!

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.

Six secrets to building UNSTOPPABLE Self-confidence.

Have you ever found yourself saying ‘I wish I was that confident?’

Have you ever looked at someone and thought wow they ooze so much confidence?

Building true confidence is a gradual process. This process does not happen overnight. Confidence is a state mind, it comes from feelings of well-being.

Here are six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE self-confidence. The secret is out, I had to share it.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Comparing yourself to others can be so damaging. Focus on yourself, your goals and strengths.

2. Be assertive.

Stand up for what you believe in and stick to your principles.

3. Take the limits off.

Stop doubting yourself, keep moving forward and take action.

4. Be positive

Have a different outlook, change your perspective.

5. Change your inner voice

Stop those negative voices. Think positive thoughts.

6. Smile

The act of smiling is strongly associated with positive feelings.

When you feel that your confidence is drifting remember these six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE confidence.

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Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach

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Author of Open Doors





Inspiration starts from WITHIN.
That JOYOUS moment of thoughts that manage to hit from the DEEP.
Just deep enough for your thoughts to TRANSPIRE from the depths to a REALITY.
Those precious thoughts that TRANSPIRE to INSPIRE.
Whether it be in the unconscious moments or whilst wide awake,
It is more than a burning passion to more than make it happen.

You wake up and it’s there, you go to sleep and it the thought it still there.

Giving up is an option we can CHOOSE.
Though in the mist of it all you can dwell on it or OPEN DOORS.
Written by my amazing brother Joshua.
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The big LIE your mind keeps telling you.

                                                  YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

Sometimes I get caught up the big LIE my mind keeps telling me.

We can sometimes feel that we are not good enough and then start to compare ourselves to others.

You do NOT have to feel that way. Remember you are on your own journey.

As the saying goes, do not compare your chapter 1 with someone else’s chapter 20.

Do not listen to the negativity, reject those feelings and replace them with positive thoughts.

These 6 tips freed me from feeling that I wasn’t good enough. I hope they do the same for you too.

  1. You are enough
  2. You are unique
  3. Reject & replace
  4. You deserve love
  5. Your approval is the only one that matters
  6. You have a choice

Six tips to help you to remember you ARE good enough.

Share these 6 tips with someone today.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.

Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach.




Have you ever had negative thoughts go over and over in your mind?

Not sure how to deal with those negative thoughts?

It is TIME to have a MINDSET change.

One TIP that will help you to think differently.

  1. Replace your negative thoughts with positive uplifting words.

Instead of saying words such as:



-No good

Replace those words with positive words such as:




When you start to replace the negative with a positive it will transform the way you think.

So as you go through your week remember, when a negative thought comes to your mind,  REPLACE it with an uplifting word.

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Tarnya Coley- Best Selling Author of Open Doors

Motivational & Personal Development Coach.