Next time you think life is putting obstacles in front of you… WATCH THIS!!!!!

The little girl in the video does NOT quit. Perseverance is the key. WOW, she did it!

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.

Six secrets to building UNSTOPPABLE Self-confidence.

Have you ever found yourself saying ‘I wish I was that confident?’

Have you ever looked at someone and thought wow they ooze so much confidence?

Building true confidence is a gradual process. This process does not happen overnight. Confidence is a state mind, it comes from feelings of well-being.

Here are six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE self-confidence. The secret is out, I had to share it.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Comparing yourself to others can be so damaging. Focus on yourself, your goals and strengths.

2. Be assertive.

Stand up for what you believe in and stick to your principles.

3. Take the limits off.

Stop doubting yourself, keep moving forward and take action.

4. Be positive

Have a different outlook, change your perspective.

5. Change your inner voice

Stop those negative voices. Think positive thoughts.

6. Smile

The act of smiling is strongly associated with positive feelings.

When you feel that your confidence is drifting remember these six secrets for building UNSTOPPABLE confidence.

Have a great day.

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Tarnya Coley- Best Selling Author of Open Doors

Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach

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Topic- Confidence

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Topic for today: DISTRACTIONS.

Do you questions & need some advice or tips?

  • How to stay motivated?
  • How to have work life balance?
  • How to stay on top of your game?
  • How to stay disciplined?

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Tarnya Coley- Motivational Speaker & Personal Development Coach.

Author of Open Doors





Do you have a routine each morning to get you motivated?

If not, start TODAY.

Having a routine and sticking to it has great BENEFITS.

  • You will feel in control of the day ahead.
  • You will feel motivated.
  • You will have a positive mental attitude.
  • Go ahead & dominate your day.

What successful people do in the first 8 minutes of their morning.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.


You can not do the same thing and expect different results.

If you want to see CHANGE, you have to do things differently.

I was sharing with a student that if you want to pass this course you have to study hard, show up to class and submit your assignments. You WILL not pass with great results if you do not put the hard work. You have to start to do things differently.

You have to put ACTION into your thoughts.

What do you want to change? Is there a circumstance, situation that you want to see changed?

Do you find yourself going around in circles?

Start to make changes TODAY.

The FIRST step is to write down what you want to see changed.

Writing things down is a powerful thing. What you are doing is writing the vision down.

It does not stop there.

You have to start acting on what you want to see.

You have to start making different choices. Going in a different direction.

Ask for people to support you in the changes you want to see.

Expect POSITIVE CHANGES because you are doing things differently.

I challenge you TODAY.

Write down the changes you want to see.

Then start to take action and EXPECT POSITIVE changes.

If you need support in making changes you can email me on

I look forward to hearing from you.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.



There is GREATNESS inside all of us.

You have to believe it.

Start your day on a positive note.

Repeat those words to yourself.

There is GREATNESS inside of me.

When doubt, fear and negative self talk starts to cloud your judgement.

Or stops you from advancing.

Speak out those words.


Check out these 27 powerful quotes to bring out the greatness in YOU.

Have a great day & remember, you wasn’t born to fit in. You was born to stand out.

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Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.



I would like to take this opportunity to share with my fellow bloggers some GREAT NEWS.

Have you ever been so surprised that you are lost for words?

Growing up it was hard to accept praise and kind words from others.

I guess that was because I lacked confidence, and was crippled with low self-esteem.

As I got older, I knew that I could not remain the same.

I was not living to my true potential. Have you heard they saying? There is greatness inside you?

Is there? I thought. I had to learn how to unleash the greatness and live a life of purpose and meaning.

Two things have happened this week which has taken me by surprise.

My husband said, accept the positive things that people are saying to you, and embrace it.

The first thing, I came home from work and I saw a letter on the piano addressed to me.

There was no stamp. This was a personally hand delivered letter.

I was very curious.

I preceded to open the letter. It read Open Doors…

It was a two page letter of how they really enjoyed the book, and they hope that others will enjoy it and feel motivated to walk through the doors of opportunities.
Wow, how nice of this individual to write such lovely words.

At the end of the letter, there was no name. They stated that they want to remain anonymous. I really want to thank that individual for taking the time out to write such kind words.

Also, I found out that I have been nominated for Author of colour. What? Me? Really? I had to read it again. Yes, my name was on the list to my surprise.

BEXLIVE Enterprise and Community Awards Gala.

They have nominated me for this award.

Please take this opportunity to place your vote.

Click on the word VOTE.

Click on Author of colour, and you will see Tarnya

Thank you for your support., & thank you for stopping by.

Tarnya Coley- Author of Open Doors.